Episode 247: Validation vs. Confidence: What's the Real Difference? A Chat with Nicole Kalil

Here to get TRASHED?! 😝 

Kidding, kind of. 

Founder & confidence sherpa, keynote speaker, author, and podcast host Nicole Kalil is here today to discuss how bringing her trash to the “transfer station” ie, dump, led her to interrogate the “trash” that was in her head or “head trash” and write her first book called Validation is for Parking. 

In today’s episode, Nicole explains what “head trash” is and the 3 things you need to know about it to become more confident. 

Nicole and Erin also talk about: 

• Nicole’s personal story of BECOMING confident when she was climbing the corporate ladder and why this is different from all of the other voices telling us how to BE confident 

• 5 things that derail your confidence and how to be aware of them 

• Why you’ve been lying to yourself with the affirmations you’re using and how to actually believe them and embrace them 

If you want to become more confident—this is the episode for you. 

Special sprinkles on top of this episode:  

• “Batching” your life and how it will shoot your productivity through the roof 

• Saying no to things that don’t meet your 4 P’s 

If you liked this episode, you can keep the party going with:  

• Episode 126: Want to Gain Confidence, Get Comfortable with the Uncomfortable at Work? Try Chicken Dancing! (with Special Guest Cameron Roffey) 

• Episode 121: Let Go of Your Leadership-Limiting Beliefs - How Improv Improves Your Confidence 

Show Links: 

• Purchase Erin’s book, I See You! A Leader’s Guide to Energizing Your Team through Radical Empathy. 

• Get our free Book Club timeline and checklist here. 

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• Your hunt for the top best virtual keynote speakers stops today. Learn more about our F Words at Work & Empathetic Leader keynotes here. 

Connect with Nicole Kalil: 

• Nicole’s website 

• Nicole’s book, Validation is for Parking 

• Nicole’s freebie, My Year of Confidence Action Plan 

• Nicole’s Instagram 

Connect with Erin Diehl: 

• Erin’s Instagram 

• Erin’s LinkedIn 

• Erin’s website 

• improve it!’s Instagram 

• improve it!’s website 

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Erin Diehl is the founder and Chief “Yes, And” officer of improve it! and host of the improve it! Podcast. She’s a performer, facilitator and professional risk-taker who lives by the mantra, “get comfortable with the uncomfortable.” Through a series of unrelated dares, Erin has created improve it!, a company that uses improv-used talent development to elevate the new generation of work. Her work with clients such as United Airlines, PepsiCo, Groupon, Deloitte, Motorola, Walgreens, and The Obama Foundation earned her the 2014 Chicago RedEye Big Idea Award and has nominated her for the 2015-2019 Chicago Innovations Award. 

This graduate from Clemson University is a former experiential marketing and recruiting professional as well as a veteran improviser from the top improvisational training programs in Chicago, including The Second City, i.O. Theater, and The Annoyance Theatre. 

When she is not playing pretend or facilitating, she enjoys running and beach dates with her husband and son, and their eight-pound toy poodle, BIGG Diehl. 

You can follow the improve it! podcast on Instagram and Facebook, and you can follow Erin personally on Instagram. You can also check out improve it! and how we can help your organization at www.learntoimproveit.com. We can’t wait to connect with you! 

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